Working women today report that they continue to shoulder the majority of the caregiving and household duties. In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked daughters to share ways their parents taught them that partnership starts at home.

Equality Starts At Home: 4 Lessons Daughters Learned From Their Moms

Shelley Zalis, CEO, The Female Quotient, with her daughter, Niki Fleshner
Shelley Zalis, CEO, The Female Quotient, with her daughter, Niki

This Mother’s Day let us never forget that all moms are working moms, whether you stay at home or log on from nine to five. At the Female Quotient, we’re working on creating new solutions for change so that family responsibilities are shared. Most importantly, it starts at home.

When it comes to mothers who are in the workplace, the notion of the second shift is nothing new. On the flip side, we’re starting to see a shift in a new direction that is quite encouraging, with millennials and Gen Z having equality in their DNA. However, women today report that they continue to shoulder the majority of the caregiving and household duties. We partnered with Fairygodboss and Progyny to explore the differences between men’s and women’s views on work and home life. The survey uncovered:

  • 77% of men in relationships said their career takes priority over their partner’s, versus 35% of women
  • 40% of women say they spend 8+ hours/week on household tasks like cooking, cleaning, childcare and other domestic duties, compared to 29% of men
  • 50% of women report they feel household management is primarily their responsibility, compared to 33% of men

If you want a dual income family, then it’s important to equally shoulder the household responsibilities as well so that both partners can thrive in the workplace and at home.

In honor of Mother’s Day, we asked some of the women from the next generation, which is really the NOW generation, to share what their ideal partnership would look like, along with lessons learned from their own parents about work and home life.

Prioritize Family, Work & Yourself

“Both my parents worked full time, and they have an amazing friendship and partnership. My mom always told me to let her know if something was important to me, and she’d be there. My parents taught us that work was important, not just for the family, but also for themselves. I hope that one day, my future husband and I will be even half the amazing parents they are to me.”

~Niki Fleshner, 23, daughter of Shelley Zalis, CEO, The Female Quotient

Partnership Means You’re A United Front

“My mom has a big job and has tremendous responsibility at work, and she also has many responsibilities at home. My parents support each other and have an equal partnership. I think knowing you’re a united front is really important when both partners are working. My mom is a better mom because of how hard she works at the office and at home. She’s an amazing role model to my sister and I because she is showing us determination and leadership.”

~Frankie Molen, 17, daughter of Laura Molen, Executive Vice President, NBCU Lifestyle and Hispanic Ad Sales at NBCUniversal Media, LLC

Appreciate Each Other

“Although my is not a “working mom” in the sense that she doesn’t go to work for a paycheck, my dad always said from an early age is that mom is the boss…My dad travels a lot for work and the nature of it is that my mom picks up a lot of the slack around the house. It’s not taken for granted. My dad acknowledges all she does, always saying thank you, and helps out whenever he can.”

~Maxine Marcus, 18, founder of The Ambassadors Company, a teen insights and consulting business

Get The Kids Involved

“Both of my parents work, and I know somebody is there for us when we need them…Sometimes my parents also like to involve us in their office work and make it a game. My mom would bring a problem from work and ask us how we could solve it, or when she creates a presentation for work, she will show us what and why she is creating it. She will talk to us about the different phases of team work. It’s helped me in the science projects that I have been involved in.”

~Gitanjali Rao, 13, America’s top young scientist